Let’s face it, dating is stressful enough without having to worry about your physical appearance. Everyone has parts about them that they dislike or want to hide. But if you’re overweight, and you feel uncomfortable about the way you look, this can make your love life a whole lot harder to deal with. But honestly, you really should not be having those negative feelings about yourself. Like anyone else, you deserve to be loved and respected for who you are. So, if you feel like you’ve put on a little weight, and are starting to feel unhappy about your physical appearance, here are some ways that you can deal with those emotions before you go on your big date.

Change your diet

You’ve probably heard that you should lose weight over and over again from the people you know. It hurts to know that people are judging you about being a larger person. But, honestly, the only person you should be listening to is yourself. If you are happy with your diet, and it is not affecting your health, then don’t worry about what other people say. However, if you do think that it’s time that you start to lose a few pounds, then it’s time for you to start looking around for some new diets or weight-loss methods.

Don’t just jump on the latest diet fad. Most of the diets you will find online aren’t exactly the healthiest options. Instead of helping you out, they may just make you starve yourself, meaning that you will just end up hurting your body. Instead, take it slowly and start planning a food diary. Keep track of what you eat and drink and start decreasing it over time. You can even incorporate nifty little tricks, like using smaller plates for portion control and not having tempting foods in your house to start you off on the right track.

However, if you do struggle on your own, there’s no harm in hiring a dietician or seeing your GP to get some weight loss advice. You don’t even need to do it alone. Ask your friends and family to come along for the ride so that they can support your healthier choices.

Keep Confident

You are a unique person and don’t deserve to feel bad about yourself. There are so many fish in the sea that, honestly, you will end up finding someone who is into a bigger size. But for the time being, they don’t matter. What matters is your self-esteem and how you feel about your weight. You shouldn’t care about what people think of you. Instead, you should own your size and know that you are a bigger person with all of the beautiful curves that go with that image.

You need to raise your self-esteem. So, start by imagining that you are the sexiest person in the world, heck, not only are you beautiful but you are one of the hottest London escorts in the world, someone who is fully in control of their sexuality and partner choice. You don’t need to run after your lovers. Instead, they deserve to come crawling to you, begging you for a date.

Okay, so that might of sounded a little vain, but you need to make sure that you are not a doormat due to how you feel about your weight. Instead, you should own your curves and know that any man would be lucky to have you. If you deal with your underlying esteem issues then this will make dating a whole lot easier. Just have confidence in yourself and you will find that people will love being around you.

Specific Partner Choices

There are so many people in the world that, no matter where you go, you will find someone that is into larger people. It doesn’t matter whether they have a “fat-fetish” or they just want someone who has an amazing personality. At the end of the day, beauty fades and all that you are left with is who you are. That’s why you should try not to judge yourself so harshly when it comes to finding a new lover.

When you are out meeting new people, they may make their first impressions of you quite quickly, but if they start to get to know you, they will get past their judgements and start to see the real you. You just need to give people time to adjust their perspective. Unfortunately, humanity is made of people who immediately judge people without getting to know them. That’s why you will just instinctively know when someone will click well with you. Don’t rush into the dating scene and pick the first person who comes your way.

Find someone who will accept you and make you feel confident about yourself. If you meet a person who makes you feel like a god/goddess, or at least like anyone in the world who is special to them, then you know you have met the perfect match.

Online Dating

If you are not feeling confident about your body, or just feel too intimidated to meet people in real life, then the world of online dating might give you a confidence boost. There are so many people you can meet online who have a range of interests, physical attractions and kinks. That means it’s more than likely that you will find someone who you will feel good around. Just try not to judge them too much! The same stigmas people have for you are things that you may also try to shift onto them. Just try to keep an open mind and see who wants to talk to you. That way you can start your romance journey off on a good note.

Are you ready to meet your perfect match?

Honestly, your weight should not be the reason why you find it hard to date. Only you can hold yourself back. That’s why it’s so important to get your self-confidence and your own opinion of yourself in check. After all, as Ru Paul says, “if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else?” Just relax and take dating a step at a time. The calmer you are, the more likely that your date will see the real you and want to see you more often.

Good luck!